I love this piece so much! I notice a similar pattern in announcements on social media. Often, when women in my circle graduate, land new jobs, or reach other milestones, a majority of the comments are, “You’re such a beautiful woman!” or some variation thereof. It isn’t that being beautiful is an inherently bad thing, but it has zero relation to a post about finishing a master’s or being promoted. Reading your perspective helps me see I wasn’t just looking for a soap box to climb onto.